Sometimes, right before sex, it’s nice to pop off to the bathroom to freshen up. Maybe you slick on some deodorant, check your teeth for signs of broccoli, or have a quick pee — you know, whatever makes you feel your best.
Well, that list is a little harder to nail down, especially since everyone is so different. As Anne Hodder sexuality educator and coach says, “I hesitate to say that there’s anything you should never ever do right before intercourse … because we all have different rituals that help us get and stay in the mood. For instance, some people prefer not to eat foods that feel heavy (or gassy) before any kind of intercourse, while others find that ‘full’ feeling to be comforting and grounding.”
That’s why, whatever you do or don’t do, it’s important to stick with a routine that makes you feel good. There are, however, some bad habits, bad ideas, and negative thinking patterns all of us should do our best to avoid. You know, like zeroing in on insecurities, or forgetting where that damn condom went.
1. Don’t Run To The Bathroom For A Quick Shave
If you shave your legs or bikini area, it might be tempting to run to the bathroom for a quick pre-sex touch up. But trust me when I say the consequences are not worth it. “Shaving and trimming … may land you with irritation and discomfort,” . Instead, try to remember to shave the day before.
2. Don’t Focus On Your “Imperfections”
As all your clothes fall to the floor, it can be difficult not to feel self-conscious. But, as Sassoon tells me, it’s so important to ignore your negative thoughts as much as possible. Forget about your physical “imperfections” and focus on all the positives going on around you. It may be difficult, but you’ll have much more fun as a result.
3. Don’t Use An Electric Toothbrush
This one may sound extra strange, but it makes total sense once you think about it. As health writer Krissy Brady said on Women’s Health, “… using an electric toothbrush … might make you more prone to STDs.” Board-certified dermatologist Tsappora Shainhouse told her. Ouch.
4. Don’t Talk About Your Bills
As you climb into bed with your SO, do your best to refrain from “boring” talk that relates to the stresses of daily life. “If you do, the sex is over before it even began,” . Keep the convo light, or skip the talking and get to it.
5. Don’t Focus On How Tired You Feel
In the same vein, try not to focus on about how tired you feel. As Hope tells me, zeroing in on your exhaustion levels can bring negative energy to the room — and it can be difficult to shake. If you’re in the mood (despite being sleepy) try to pump yourself up.
6. Don’t Forget The Lube
Not everyone needs or wants lube, but it doesn’t hurt to have it on hand.”Lube decreases friction, which makes sex feel more pleasurable, and lowers the risk of small cuts and tears in the vagina,” says Stacy Rybchin,. So go ahead and put a bottle on your nightstand now.
7. Don’t Take An Antihistamine
Antihistamines dry out your nose, so think about what else they can dry out. Yea. That’s why, according to Brady, you might want to go ahead and skip them before sex.
8. Don’t Eat A Super Heavy Meal
If you’re hungry, go ahead and have a burrito before sex. Because really, who cares? You wouldn’t eat a ton before hitting the gym, so you probably don’t want to fill up before sex, either.